You are forgetting we are talking about mages here, not some white collar office workers. In the Nasuverse, and many others, mages are people who are single-mindedly chasing some goal or ideal. The whole Grail war itself was such a thing for the Einzbern and a path to it for the other participants. For both Emiya it's the hero business. Rin is actually a sad mage as long as she doesn't have a goal, unless savingArcherShirou really is her goal. If you take that goal, that dream, away from a mage, you don't get a winner, you get the biggest loser.
Now he simply knows it's a foolish goal after Archer's lecture, but it's still what he's living for as a mage, nonetheless. With Rin around, as a man he has also other responsibilities now.
She'll just spend alone the times Shirou is out there saving the world. But he'll always come back, no doubt about it. Give him a child and he'll come back all the more frequently and quickly. He's in love with her, after all. It seems unlikely he would neglect his own child when he practically worshipped Kiritsugu as his own sorcerous father figure. I reckon as a mage she would even appreciate some time alone every now and then, to advance her research in peace.