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    It depends a lot on your family, their views and the people that surround you so yeah for some people it is a very big deal. I know some people that had be disown by their families because they came out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dragonrage View Post
    It depends a lot on your family, their views and the people that surround you so yeah for some people it is a very big deal. I know some people that had be disown by their families because they came out.
    I don't think it would actually be bad. Coming out to my family really has nothing to do with the idea that they might take it poorly. My mother's sister is in a long-term relationship with a woman and they would have been married 20 years ago were it possible. Nobody in our family has ever excluded them or shied away from letting her bring the woman in her life to family events. It's really just because I hate myself.

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    In that case you should just go and do it. If your family will understand then that is fine. I guess you also have a good close relationship with your family because you care about what they think (while I don't) so it should be worth it.

    My best friend is bisexual, and she is normally open about it to everyone, but she still keeps it a secret from her mother to prevent any issues (and there will be because her mother will flip). I didn't think you were in the closet to everyone, including people you hang out with.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shinta|hikari View Post
    In that case you should just go and do it. If your family will understand then that is fine. I guess you also have a good close relationship with your family because you care about what they think (while I don't) so it should be worth it.

    My best friend is bisexual, and she is normally open about it to everyone, but she still keeps it a secret from her mother to prevent any issues (and there will be because her mother will flip). I didn't think you were in the closet to everyone, including people you hang out with.
    I'm out to my former roommate and people on the internet. And the guy I had sex with, presumably, unless he got entirely the wrong impression from all the gay sex.

    I have a good relationship with my family. Again, it's not really about the possibility they will freak out about it.

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    Wait, so only 2 people you know IRL know about it?
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    Take your time telling your family Y. In my opinion, one of the worst things someone can do is out someone publicly to that person's family. That means they didn't get to make the announcement on their own terms, on their own time, in the way that feels right to them. It's not just for thing like coming out gay. Any major life changing event deserves the same treatment.

    You know, unless they are a politician that has been railing against gay rights for years while having secret sex with same-sex interns the whole time.

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    Yup, no quick decisions!
    After all this is only one gay sex experience.

    Before having a coming out, there are lots of other questions to answer. Like why you have yourself like you wrote.

    After all, one experience doesn't make you exclusively gay or gay for life. If it is, in time you'll know and organise things your way, your timing.
    I might even just be a try and forget experiment.

    Also, I might interpret too much, but it might be you had that experience because somehow you can't find answers to deeper questions. But this is bad psychology here. Just a feeling I got while reading.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dragonrage View Post
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    On topic, I have considered having sex with a guy if I were a girl. I remember being asked about what I would do if I can become female for 24 hours, and one of my answers was to have sex with a male.
    = closet homosexual.


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    Don't be daft.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Y View Post
    I don't think it would actually be bad. Coming out to my family really has nothing to do with the idea that they might take it poorly. My mother's sister is in a long-term relationship with a woman and they would have been married 20 years ago were it possible. Nobody in our family has ever excluded them or shied away from letting her bring the woman in her life to family events. It's really just because I hate myself.
    To be fair, woman-woman is a little less weird than man-man.

    Did you only recently realize you are homosexual, or did you just wait for the right guy to have sex with? I agree, coming out to the family, if you're not close to them, is pointless. It's like if I dated a woman of color, my parents would object, but I wouldn't care.


    For God will not permit that we shall know what is to come... those who by some sorcery or by some dream might come to pierce the veil that lies so darkly over all that is before them may serve by just that vision to cause that God should wrench the world from its heading and set it upon another course altogether and then where stands the sorcerer? Where the dreamer and his dream?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryllharu View Post
    Take your time telling your family Y. In my opinion, one of the worst things someone can do is out someone publicly to that person's family. That means they didn't get to make the announcement on their own terms, on their own time, in the way that feels right to them. It's not just for thing like coming out gay. Any major life changing event deserves the same treatment.
    Happened to me, someone told my mom that he`s 100% sure i`m gay, turns out he found my profile on a gay site, i denied it @_@
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    What the hell? Talk about breach of personal space.
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    Sorry for the typo.It was "hate yourself" not "have yourself"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Animeniax View Post
    To be fair, woman-woman is a little less weird than man-man.

    Did you only recently realize you are homosexual, or did you just wait for the right guy to have sex with? I agree, coming out to the family, if you're not close to them, is pointless. It's like if I dated a woman of color, my parents would object, but I wouldn't care.
    I have absolutely no doubt that I'm gay. If I have any heterosexual urges, I've never noticed them. I've known it for like 10 years, when I suddenly realized in high school that I was madly in love with my male best friend. I wasn't waiting for the "right guy", though.

    Quote Originally Posted by UChessmaster View Post
    Happened to me, someone told my mom that he`s 100% sure i`m gay, turns out he found my profile on a gay site, i denied it @_@
    That really sucks. In this situation I would have to come clean to my parents. Also I would beat the shit out of the guy who outed me to my parents. Unless he was super hot. Then I'd hatefuck him.

    Quote Originally Posted by David75 View Post
    After all, one experience doesn't make you exclusively gay or gay for life. If it is, in time you'll know and organise things your way, your timing.
    I might even just be a try and forget experiment.

    Also, I might interpret too much, but it might be you had that experience because somehow you can't find answers to deeper questions. But this is bad psychology here. Just a feeling I got while reading.
    I'm totally gay, though.

    I'm unsure what you're implying in the second part here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryllharu View Post
    You make it sound like you are one of those people who are forced to apologize for "raping" her before you even start, then apologize after too.
    Lol, that´s what I get for ignoring the General Discussions-board of Gotwoot. Almost missed this hilarious, slightly offensively debated thread. Nice. But looks like it´s too late for some proper trolling, so I´ll look forward to a similar thread in the future. :>

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    Quote Originally Posted by MFauli View Post
    Lol, that´s what I get for ignoring the General Discussions-board of Gotwoot. Almost missed this hilarious, slightly offensively debated thread. Nice. But looks like it´s too late for some proper trolling, so I´ll look forward to a similar thread in the future. :>
    It's not too late, have a go at classying up this thread. We'll make sure your contributions are ignored in turn.
    Last edited by Animeniax; Sat, 10-29-2011 at 11:18 PM.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Y View Post
    I don't think it would actually be bad. Coming out to my family really has nothing to do with the idea that they might take it poorly....It's really just because I hate myself.
    C-can you elaborate on this?

    I'm not following why hating yourself prevents you from telling your family, especially if you are sure they'd be accepting of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XanBcoo View Post
    C-can you elaborate on this?

    I'm not following why hating yourself prevents you from telling your family, especially if you are sure they'd be accepting of you.
    To come out as gay is to see whether your family and friends would accept you for who you are. I have little doubt that they would. The harder task is to accept yourself first.

    Quote Originally Posted by Animeniax View Post
    To be fair, woman-woman is a little less weird than man-man.
    I already quoted this post without addressing this element but allow me to go back to it. Why, exactly, is this? The New Testament exhortation by Paul against same-sex relationships condemns women as equally as men (and condemns anyone having sex at all only slightly less vociferously). Are you just trolling me or are you actually suggesting that modern man's desire to see two ladies going at it (a desire crafted pretty much entirely by pornography) makes it more natural than two guys?

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    Are you just trolling me
    There you go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carnage View Post
    There you go.
    Cool. This is what a troll is nowadays. Great.

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