Bump'in
So it's now 7 months after I made this post, which is 9 months after I intended to take any action, and I finally got around to asking that girl to have lunch with me last week after not having seen her since last May. It was pretty cool! I met up with her at a Chipotle and we ended up talking for like 45 minutes after we were done eating. I've been talking to her a lot on AIM recently and I guess things might be looking kinda good??
I really have no idea what I'm doing.
Last edited by XanBcoo; Thu, 01-31-2008 at 02:31 AM.
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
i'll say one thing...if you wanna get anywhere, get off aim and get on the phone. digital conversations lead no where, fast.....believe me.
Originally Posted by Assassin
Hmm...I don't know about that, but that might be due to the different culture that I live in now. ; as it is easier to understand written words than spoken if a language barrier exists; plus, I'm not a fan of phone conversations; i prefer to use the phone to make appointments only.
disagree with Assassin also. you don't want to be dependent on any type of non-personal communication, but phone isn't always better than the web. bottom line is, keep going and getting together and, yeh, hopefully things will work out
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screw you hippies!
I'm sorry if you prefer to have long and deep conversations on the phone. I mean this may have something to do with it. But, yea, face-to-face is the best way, because if you waste all that time on the phone, you might run out of shit to talk about when and if you do meet.
Currently working on this. Phone would definitely be nice, but of course I'm gonna shoot for actual meetings here.
Thanks for the words, dudes.
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
Accual meeting are the best if you wanna get with this girl. Try going and doing something you both like. If shes never bowled, you both can go and you can laugh at how much you both suck. Seriously, when I sucked I did this and it was a great night.
And remember, if you can think of anything to say, bitch about the weather. It will always lead somewhere.
For all you awesome people, it's just Phoenix. The numbers are just the amount of times people misspell it.
well, i just got rejected by this girl i like. i told her how i felt and she told me she didn't like me in that way (oh, how i loathe that phrase). pretty bummed out rite now...this is probably the only girl i've really cared about in like 5 years....the type of person i could see myself with 10 years down the road. But hey, atleast she thinks im a really super awesome guy.....>_>.
guess for now life remains a bitch. just thought i'd let you all know.
Do you know what you did wrong? Try to use this as a learning experience.
Maybe you came on too strong, or didn't come on strong enough at the start of it and quickly fell into the "friend zone".
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
did wrong? does not looking like george clooney count as my fault? if so, then thats probably it.
I definitely wasn't in the friend zone, since i only started talking to her a few days ago....as as for coming on too strong or not strong enough, i just told her how i felt. dunno if thats too strong.
LOL... those two together Assassin... that sucks.
Translation: I don't mind hanging out with you, but i'd never date you.
And if you've only started talking for a few days, and you told her how you "feel"... you might need to work on that? But hey, you're my elder, what do I know
[21:48] * DO furiously masturbates to #gotwoot
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Goddamn you people fail.
You don't see something wrong with this. Are all you people that pathetic.
Anyway despite what you want or think not everything works out the way you want it to. I give you props for being honest and up front thats the way to go but dude you only just starting talking to her a few days ago. What the hell are you thinking. I could try to give you advice but for it to work I would have to know the two of you personally and since I don't it would probably be futile.
Every girl is different you just have to find out what works, but the first thing you gotta do is figure out whether this girl is worth it or not. Honestly if not looking like George Clooney is the problem then you shouldn't even bother pursuing her because there is nothing there. You're an intelligent guy you should be able to figure this out, its just a game atleast for now.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
Yeah, Abdula said it all before I could. You screwed up kinda bad.
If you only became friends with her a few days ago, then "telling her your feelings" was definitely the wrong move. Girls like guys to be up-front and confident, but think it's creepy when you come on too quickly and openly. Joker-kun's translation is pretty accurate.
It's like how girls see someone getting flowers from a secret admirer in romantic movies, but when it actually happens to them in real life, they're one odd glance away from calling the police.
What you need to remember is that it's your job to attract her, not for you to suddenly become the luckiest guy and have her reciprocate strong feelings after only a week of knowing her. That's unrealistic, and probably set of warning signals of obsessive behavior. Your goal is to be the guy she wants to be with. Get to know her, let her know the interesting and intelligent person that you are. If there's a connection, then run with it. If not, then let it go and move on.
Shut the fuck up. I hate all the "I'm so much better than the rest of you" bullshit that new members come to this forum with. Thanks for indicting the rest of us because of Assassin's screw up, sparky. I didn't realize we were such pathetic losers. No really. Thank you.
Edit for below: Oh Jesus Fuck, it's a fact!! A FACT! I better get my ass out of my room and join you in the darkness Abdula before my life starts failing any harder!!!
Last edited by XanBcoo; Mon, 02-25-2008 at 11:58 PM.
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
Off topic but just how long does it take before I'm no longer considered a "new" member and its not that I'm better than you guys it just that you do indeed fail, its a fact. I don't mind giving advice infact I would love to but as I said I have to know them, if not then I may just end up giving bad advice and making the entire situation worse.
Secondly when it comes to relationships I'm of the opinion that if "you" can't make it work then its not even worth trying because although I understand that some people may need help and everyone could use some good advice but ultimately a relationship is and should always be about two people.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
i probably should've clarified....i didn't just meet her. i've known her for a few months now, but i had stopped talking to her about a month or so after we met.....then about a week back i started talking to her again. i'd always thought she was cute, i just didn't like her till recently....i figured i'd just tell her strait up how i felt and avoid unnecessary games.
Also before someone starts thinking i fell madly in love with her in a matter of days, when i said "someone i could see myself with 10 years later", i meant that she's the type of girl i'd consider a long term relationship with. i very rarely meet someone who im interested in for any reason other then looks.
@abdula: that george clooney comment was a joke.....i dont know why she's not interested, and for all i know that 'spark' isn't there....such things can't be helped.
Edit: i should probably also clarify this, since everyone seems to assume im an idiot. I didn't exaclty blurt out "omg i luv uu" or anything. We were talking about something and i subtly implied that i liked her. Then there was some back and forth about whether i could handle a girl like her etc, which i assumed (incorrectly) to be flirting.....i didnt actually say it till a couple of days later (earlier tonite) when she brought it up again.
Last edited by Assassin; Tue, 02-26-2008 at 03:51 AM.
Sounds like a workable situation. If its so rare that you meet someone you are interested in then you should still go for it atleast if you are still interested.
Last edited by Abdula; Tue, 02-26-2008 at 04:46 PM.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
Lol, you will forever be a newbie
the moment you change your avatar so we won't think as you as "the new guy with the gaara avatar"..
also, not exactly realtionship related, but still:
During the past two years, I didn't speak with my officer or my crew about my private life, and now they've started trying to fix me up with random girls in the base. Should I consider this a phase that they're going through, or should I clearify to them to stay out of my private life before I bust their skulls open and leave them to dry out in Gaza?
So what of my first 3 avatars? Anyway it sounds like harmless good natured fun and you'll probably enjoy it so let them go through their phase.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
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