Terra defeats your privacy part 302: The Relationship (& luv) Thread

[Death BOO Z]

I'm going through one of these phases again... same girl who was putting me down the entire past year, she gives me one hint that she 'might agree to see me' (given proper warnnings, and whatnot) and I can't stop thinking whether I should call her now, tommrow, next week and all that.
espically sad, since I'm 100% sure that when I call her, she'll turn me down again and won't agree to meet me, and then make me feel like I've done something wrong... and i'll be so mad I won't feel like doing anything else tommorow .

I feel like a train wreck about to happen, and I hate it that i can't do anything to stop myself...

[Iridani]

@Death BOO Z: If she keeps putting you down repeatedly... and hints about a maybe, take it as a flat out "no". Trust me on this... I've dealt with that schpeal for the last couple months and it can get tiresome. It's not worth your time or hers anymore than going out with a rock. Actually... you may want to choose a rock. Less rejection.

@Masa: You feel warm and fuzzy? Are you sure that's not just mould growing on that black heart? I mean... smells a bit funky in here and it might be rotton :P Bars can be both good and bad to find woman.

[masamuneehs]

@DBZ What she said.

...did I just get dissed by Iridani? what did I ever do to you?

so, more progress tonight on "breaking from the past". I just got off the phone with a girl I went out with when I was in Italy (see earlier in this thread, the crazy girl who wanted me to take her V-card), and alot of much needed shit got settled. I finally totally squared up and absolutely, firmly and finally turned her down. Not now, not ever. I'd been trying to give her hints for a long time (it's been over a year!) but she would still call me near every day and want to talk for almost thirty damn minutes each time about absolutely nothing. I didn't want to have to hurt her, or string her along, but it had to be done. She was a little upset, but she said she'd understand... i should probably call her tomorrow just to check in

on that note, I realized how much I hate upstanding Christian girls. I'm dating you, not the church, so stop talking to me about jesus and trying to guilt me that I don't subscribe to any organized faith! I get enough of that shit from my mom...

okay, yeah, don't get carried away... remember, good intentions... good intentions... the road to hell is paved with them... well, yeah, it was a good couple days dealing with the past, now I need to figure out the present and future...

[Iridani]

<.<; *offers Masa a hug?* I have my grumpy moments...

[Kenshiro]

This is the closest thread I could find to what would be relevant.

I think Mut's post on the main page of the website is very interesting and should be moved into General Discussion

[Iridani]

The "closet anime fan" one or something else?

[Animeniax]

Probably the "I miss my gf cause I'm whipped" thread.

[Iridani]

Aaaah yes... that one. It does belong more so in general discussion being it's not flamey :P Or in this thread itself. Blah.

[Animeniax]

It got flamey because mut got angsty because we hit the nail on the head about his co-dependency with his gf.

[masamuneehs]

it's actually about a post on the frontpage that Mut made, I believe, which talks something about his girlfriend as well, from the bit I scanned of it. And, since it's actually not part of the forums, I can't merge it here (aside from old copypasta). Mut'll post it here if he ever wants to, or you can put in your comments on the frontpage...

[Iridani]

Aaaaand watch the hammer-like comments pour into that topic...

[itadakimasu]

*sigh*
my girlfriend and I have been getting along pretty good for the past few weeks. spent most of yesterday together and everything was fine. That is.... until i got off the phone with her earlier because i was getting on the highway. a couple minutes after i get off the phone with her im doing about 80... traffic is pretty heavy, radio is up about half way when i hear my phone ringing. so i 'scramble' to find it first and answer it and it is my gf so i'm like "YEAH?" and then there is silence and im like wtf.. what do you want? after almost making me get into a car accident to answer your phonecall... i said i was sorry on the phone then and thought it was over. no. it was not and is not over.

i keep taking steps towards breaking up with her, and then we make up and its a small step back... but i dont know how long this can last if she wants to make huge deals out of nothing. i have more important things to spend my stress on.

[Assertn]

whoa...animeniax came back!

I guess I might as well finally leave a post here....
Anyway...it's annoying when girls prefer to talk via text messages...then they don't reply when you send them a message....

It's like....did they not want to talk, or do they just not have their phone with them? And then you don't want to be a bitch and send a bunch more text messages if it turns out they actually didn't want to talk afterall.

That's why I always prefer just talking in real-time.

[conquistaDan]

Hi

There is a girl in my old subdivision that is really cute and is friends with my good friend. He is also friends with the girls very good friend (who was his neighbor for years) and has known her for a long time. She also knows me, but not as well as she knows him. Anyway, the girl I like is 18 and is very pretty but, I don't really know how to go after her.

Should I
a) become friends with her and see where that goes while getting to know her?

b) use my friend and her friend to get to her somehow?

side note:I'm terrified of her dad shooting me after he finds out I'm dating her, or want to because I'm 23


what should I do?

[itadakimasu]

alot of girls like older guys... go for it ^^

don't try to be friends with her though if that isn't what you want. you need to let her know one way or another that you want to be more than just friends.


edit:

an update to my previous posts... apparantly my girlfriend 'charged up' this other girl and now the other girl is appologizing to me for acting the way she did. i feel like i've got a get out of jail free card even though i didn't do anything wrong that would constitute cheating on my girlfriend.... i cant help being attracted to other girls.

oh yes... and it is our 10th month anniversary today

[ChaosK]

whoa...animeniax came back!

No he didn't.

[conquistaDan]

alot of girls like older guys... go for it ^^

don't try to be friends with her though if that isn't what you want. you need to let her know one way or another that you want to be more than just friends.


edit:

an update to my previous posts... apparantly my girlfriend 'charged up' this other girl and now the other girl is appologizing to me for acting the way she did. i feel like i've got a get out of jail free card even though i didn't do anything wrong that would constitute cheating on my girlfriend.... i cant help being attracted to other girls.

oh yes... and it is our 10th month anniversary today

Thanks for advice. I'm meeting her this weekend.


about the being attracted to other women, I feel for you man. They're just way too many not to love out there.

[conquistaDan]

Alright well I found this thread and seriously need some advice. I don't know if this thread is closed or not, but I need some help.

Here's the deal:
About 5 months ago I was finding it hard to go to study anyplace and couldn't find one, so I went to the library down the road to see if it was done being built for some quiet alone time to read and catch up for an easy A, so I went. Well as I was down there I was checking out a book and I noticed someone walk by, who looked like a nice girl I might know. Didn't catch who it was or anything like that, but I was curious and had time, so I followed casually. As I round the corner I hear books getting stacked and stuff by one of the most hauntingly stunning girls I've seen in a long long long time, easily a 9.8-10. Well to make a long story short, heres the run down.

1)shes in my age range
2)don't know if shes single or not
3)mega crushing on her with no lines to give out to her

If anyone out there can give me advice on how to even get to a hang out point with her or something, please let me know. I have to see her again and I can't just let a girl who lives this close to me, who is this gorgeous just slip out of my grasp. Help me out guys

Moved your post into this thread. Dont resurrect old threads when there aore other threads available to you. And also, control your hormones. What're you 13?

-Assassin

[Phoenix20578]

Bump

Well, I'm in a relationship of some type right now. I met her last year at work. So for a while we were just friends. Then a few months ago, we started hanging out a lot more. Like we started goin to clubs together, getting food, doin the random call shit, and all that good stuff. Then one day a few weeks ago, I asked her if she liked me and if we were goin out. She basically danced around the answer and just said she doesn't like going out with co-workers, which answered nothing. So for the past few weeks we've been the same as before. We've been hanging out, and I havent brought it up since last month. I really dont know what I should do at this point. I've really fallin for her, otherwise I never would've dealt with ant bs, but I am starting to get tired of this.

Ok, just an update at this point. I did end up getting together offially with this girl. So for about 6 months we were unoffial and for 2 we were. Note the past tense. I found out mid may that she cheated on me with her ex, who she was still hungover on. Now she's having a kid, and I stopped caring at this point. Though, its hard being alone again

[RedX1z]

Think of it as dodging a bullet. If it was going to happen, then better early on, then later on at the point where you'd probably end up in deeper shit and that's when you'd really not be able to do anything.

Try not to think about it, move on, and just enjoy the times to comes. It's not like she'll be the last, right?