Terra defeats your privacy part 302: The Relationship (& luv) Thread

[Death BOO Z]

well, me and her (the girl from last posts) are no longer together.
she said she wasn't feeling any 'emotions' or butterflies, and all that.

I don't know, i didn't want this to happen, i liked being with her, she liked being with me, shouldn't that be enough to keep this going?

[Assertn]

This thread kinda reminds me of Densha Otoko

[TruthofMistake]

Heh, the thing I had going crashed and burned as well. I don't really mind though, the girl in question has been a complete bitch lately.

[rockmanj]

Hmmm...well, I think i may have let my kind nature interfere with mt amorous pursuits, and i think the only way to recify it is through shady means. So, I'm at my friend's party a couple of weeks ago, and one of his good friends (and my coworker)'s gf brings her friend along. Now said friend was pretty nice looking, i thought, but like, all the guys that talked to her walked away, because she told them she cant speak english. So, in my book, that's a red flag, and i immedieately just chalk her up to a lost cause.
However, like about an hour later, im mixing myself a drink, and she wanders over and starts talking to me in english, of all things...and then she starts with extremely heavy flirting...and sometimes i'm oblivious to signs, but there was no way i could miss these cues. And i shouldve done the smart thing, and just ran with it...unfortunately, another friend was gunning for her, and the previous night i kinda took a girl away from him, so i felt guilty, and did not pursue.
Afterwards, though, i felt shitty about it, cuz nothin came of it, due to the fact that he was chasing like 4 girls around, so she's still probably all alone at home...doing whatever it is she does. And, now that all my other options seem to have dried up, i kinda wanna get with her more, but i dont see a feasible way. I cant ask my coworker, cause he's a douche, and i cant ask his gf, cause he keeps her away from me for some reason. My friends suggest i hang out at the dunkin donuts in her apt. building, but that's stalking and its creepy. So all i have now is random chance...like maybe i see her around town or something :-\.
Also, i met another girl, and i kinda lied about my age, which wouldn't have been that bad if i said i was 25, but i said i was born in 1981 (which isnt true at all). I lied because women here arent supposed to be friends with younger guys...but it turns out my fake age isnt old enough either, but she really doesnt seem to mind. So, for problem one...i dont know what to do; i guess leave it to chance :-(. Problem 2...im not sure if i should come clean or not, and also not sure how to do it. I cant exactly say, "i thought i was born in 81..oops!!" I'll sound like an idiot or something.

[masamuneehs]

why not go by the Dunken Donuts every now and then? Maybe don't hang out there, as that's pretty desperate, but if you think she might be there and you want to see her, you can casually bump into her. Leaving it up to chance is fine, but if you can increase your chances a bit, why the hell not?

More importantly, what's her friend's deal with not wanting you to get with her? Bad female opinions can kill a man.

Your're probably going to get burned on the lie eventually, if you keep this chick around. She'll hear from someone else or you'll just muck up one day. You'll probably just have to suck it up and tell her, making sure to explain that you were afraid she'd not want to 'hang' with you if you told her your honest age. Some people find that kind of shit 'cute/adorable', others think it's pitiful and sleazy. Hope she's the former.

[rockmanj]

why not go by the Dunken Donuts every now and then? Maybe don't hang out there, as that's pretty desperate, but if you think she might be there and you want to see her, you can casually bump into her. Leaving it up to chance is fine, but if you can increase your chances a bit, why the hell not?

More importantly, what's her friend's deal with not wanting you to get with her? Bad female opinions can kill a man.

Your're probably going to get burned on the lie eventually, if you keep this chick around. She'll hear from someone else or you'll just muck up one day. You'll probably just have to suck it up and tell her, making sure to explain that you were afraid she'd not want to 'hang' with you if you told her your honest age. Some people find that kind of shit 'cute/adorable', others think it's pitiful and sleazy. Hope she's the former.

Geez, u really dont pull the punches.. However, i do agree with what ur sayin. And the thing with the friend is totally due to the jerk i work with. It is understandable though, as his good friend tried to get with her. The thing is, his gf told him to tell me something apparently good that her friend wanted me to know, but he didnt do it. I know this because i sat right in front of him while he was on the phone with her, and he looked me in the eyes, and said nothing. Add to that, he told his girlfriend something bad (and most likely untrue) about me, and that's part of the reason she avoids me, i think. So i guess getting a coolatta every now and then wont hurt.


And the lying thing was dumb...real dumb

On an unrelated note...a girl that i occassionally blow into town to..."hang out with" asked me if i would like to help sire her sister's child...WTF???!!!?!!

[masamuneehs]

it has been a while...

tonight was a friend's 22nd birthday, so we all go out drinking at this bar, sorta upscale place, not really my scene... Yankee game is on, just chilling, whatever.

So I wind up talking to this complete stranger, who I can tell is a little older than me, talks about work alot and whatever. But I'm totally into it, I mean, gotta slammin body and also seemed to be interested. We both drink a little and talk almost the whole time I'm at the place.

So, eventually the question comes up, what to do at the end of the night? Stranger lives around the block, it turns out, and I really am not sober enough to drive home yet. And, hell, I'm horny and this feels alright, so I agree.

We go outside, and in the streetlight I notice it, age. Like I said, slamming body, awesome legs and ass and very in shape, but you look in the face and you KNOW that this person is older. And it dawns on me yet that I haven't asked. So, I'm like, "How old are you?"

Response is, "39".

Okay. Wow. What to do! That's almost twice my age, and seeing that age in the face (no matter who you are, you're going to show it in the face, and it's just a turn off) really has me giving second thoughts. But I say, "Okay, that's fine. Yeah, I'm sure."

And we go, and it was a pretty fun time. Got awesome head, some service that I've never had before, and the sex was pretty hot too. But I just felt so nervous! Before I was shooting game, acting all casual, but upon realizing the age difference, I totally tensed up. I felt like my movements were all clumsy and slow and I could tell that I was with someone who really knew what they were doing. At one point I say, "I feel like I'm acting all tense and nervous". To which the response is, "well, you sorta are"

But mutual orgasms were had by both sides (I aim to please), and I leave. I hang out with my buddies, and IMMEDIATELY get a call, which I ignore. I have a voice mail being all, "Oh I had such a good time and I hope I can see you again. blahblahblah..."

and motherfucker called back again just as i'm getting home, and I say, "listen, I really am not much for phone." "Can I see you tomorrow again?" "...er... I dunno... I'm sorta not sure how I feel about this (YOU'RE ALMOST FORTY YEARS OLD!)... I did have fun, but..."

And so it's all awkward. This person knows the mother of a kid I went to high school with, for crying out loud! I don't know what to do... if it was around my age, I'd probably have spent the night, but... It's just too much!

(okay, had to vent, there you have it)

[rockmanj]

Way to go...Milf bagging, son (i like it!)

[Assertn]

Way to go...Milf bagging, son (i like it!)

or Dilf

[rockmanj]

Seems i kinda messed myself up again...Kinda like Dirk Nowitzki; everyone knows that he has the skills, but when it clutch time, he totally becomes a bum (a little NBA reference, for those of you that watch b-ball). Its actually affecting my sleep...Earlier tonight i met a pretty attractive chick out, by random chance, who apparently was into me (although im kinda bad at reading signs).

I know this for many reasons, the main being that she said it explicitly, and that she kept asking when i was leaving....and i totally messed it up. well not totally, but tonight is a bust for me, while her friend and my friend are probably making the beast with two backs as i type this.

This is why i never recommend going anywhere sober. Also, showering is imporant too (I didnt plan on seeing anyone today, i woke up from my hangover this afternoon, and my only plan was to get sushi, but i ran into a friend...and ended up a lil drunk, and meeting hot chicks about 9 hours later...no shower, no brushing the teeth :\ )

P.S. now, im a little bit tipsy

[masamuneehs]

yeah, the one concrete lesson you can take from that is that hygeine and presentation are a great part of game. and good hygeine has to be a habit, not just something you indulge in when you decided you want to make a good impression. you should always be ready to do that.

but i'm confused as to how exactly you blew the rest of it? Aside from not picking up on her hints, how'd you fuck up?

[rockmanj]

Actually, i didnt smell bad or anything, i just kinda felt weird about it, because i have impeccable hygeine. I was just really hung over, and rode 10 min. from my apt. to get some food, and then go back to sleep. believe me, any other time i woulda had the "axe effect" going. However, i ran into a friend of mine, and much later, a girl he met friday called him to meet up. We had no idea that she was with her firend.

But the way i messed up was, i didnt take her back to my place that night. She claims she wants to see me sometime this week, but you never know with korean girls. I guess i was just caught off guard...i played well, got to the 4th quarter, and didnt shoot the game winner. But hopefully its just game one in a series. ill just have to get with her this week, and apply the pressure (...too many sports metaphors....).

[masamuneehs]

so I'm in Monterrey Mexico to visit my sister, who is finishing up a three month program here at the University. I come down, babysit my parents for the first day and a half. Then, two nights ago, I just had to go out on my own. It was a Saturday, so there was lots of going on, and I was pretty buzzed, pretty cheaply, by around 11pm. I went to a club or two (no cover!) and didn't stick around much in any of them. I found that Mexican girls want to dance (which I'm horrible at, especially compared to the people I saw) or they have super envious boyfriends that lurk just out of the way and start trying to fight you when you end up talking to their fine girl who was sitting all by her lonesome and how the fuck was I supposed to know she was with somebody, fucko? Get out my face... (the first club concluded as such) Finally I stumble on a place called 'Parking'

I glance inside and, although it's totally deserted on the ground floor, I like the look of the place. And, since there's no cover and I'm thirsty, I figure, why not? I find there's a second floor overlooking the dance floor, and then a third floor with a whole new dance floor that had a heavy amount of people on it. There's also a porch (too hot though) and a fourth floor. I order a drink and it's good and strong. And there's some really hotties around. I find an American and we talk, but I wasn't really attracted and we split up.

I order another drink and go back to the second-floor catwalk. Instantly I see a real cutie, all alone, and I approach. I walk past and just look, catching eyes, I give the eye to be followed, get a bold look back and a nod for me to come over. I do. My Spanish is mad rusty, and English isn't really an option, but it becomes pretty obvious that both of us are really interested. I buy a round of drinks, we struggle to talk, another drink.

We were up on the top floor, because that bartender made me a strong one and I reward that with my night's worth of patronage and helps to tip the same one. Up there are some couches. After dancing a bit, we hit them, and I'm pretty immediately straddled. The hottie starts hiking up that tight ass T and I've got a flat, but toned belly shaking in my face and the shirt's up almost to the goods. We're getting looks, but well...

We make out and I'm like "I need to take you somewhere we can be alone". But, the problem is I'm sharing a room at my hotel with my sister... However, she had mentioned she might spend that night in her dorm room for one last time, but not until later (she was reading Harry Potter, and well, that can be an all-night affair of a very not sexual kind). But, hottie has something in mind and pulls me into this room I hadn't noticed on the second floor. It's dark and almost deserted, just one tired and fat guy sitting around, way out of place. He vacates as we tackle a couch and lip-tango for awhile. Some very heavy petting ensues. Another couple comes in and takes a corner and it becomes pretty obvious they're waiting for us to leave before they boldly step up. (Later, when we popped back in to see if they were done, she springs up from her knees and he goes to quickly adjust himself)

More drinks, some drunken attempts at dancing, more making out, more drinks, more dancing. We go back to the room and the couple is gone now. We take over the spot in the corner, and I get my belt undone and fly opened. About a minute into it, someone walks in. That freaks us pretty good. It's about 2 in the morning now. Something's got to give, and we head back to the hotel.

I go in alone, to find my sister asleep in the middle of chapter 27. I wake her and politely ask her if she needs a taxi to her dorm. She curses and rushes to get her things, and I see her to a cab. The room is ours and much orgasms are had (for a change I'll spare you the gory details, also on account of it going until almost 6 in the morning)

Next morning we get up, shower, and I rush to get out before my parents wake up and come a knocking or my sister gets back. I get digits and give out my e-mail (no cell on me) on some hotel stationary. We walk to the train station and hottie gets back on a train for an hour+ ride back home. I figure that's the end of it, even though I promised I'd call. I'm bad like that, I'll admit.

Flashforward to tonight. I'm getting back from dinner with my family and we're getting into the hotel around 930. Everyone's full and slightly steamed about getting railed by the taxi driver (Cinquenta pesos! Cabrone de mierda!). We're talking about how some cabbies have to be stamped out and how come none of us got his license, and sitting in a chair right next to the elevator is hottie.

I double-take and kindly excuse myself to go... er... out to... um, the store? Yeah, the store...

in the lobby I'm like "What are you doing here?"

"I wanted to see you again!" (Aww!) "I had the hotel information, so I came. You never called me..."

"I was going to." (this is actually a truth. I was intending on calling that night, but the idea only recently became lodged in my head over dinner, when I realized I had a good thing lined up and it would be so much better for both if we did meet up again)

We walk and talk, but there's no way to do anything that really wants to get done. There's also the matter of getting home for work, a midnight train, and, well, we're not going to be doing much in my hotel room with my sister right there...

And I keep hearing "I am in love with you. You've enchanted me" (keep in mind this was in Spanish, and sounded so much more... well, just better than it seems here) "I don't want you to go back to NY." "When will you be coming back?"

Now, I've heard and seen some intense game get kicked around, but this is something else. I can't tell if this what I'm hearing is truth, or some kind of game or what. I am a firm believer AGAINST such easily declared love, and I wouldn't say that I returned the 'feeling of love' as much as it was being pressed on me. We make out in a park and talk, and I try to be reassurant that I'm interested, but not in love. (I don't sink to that level of game). Confounding all this is the very serious fact that I've been waited for in a hotel lobby for an hour, after an hour and a half train ride (and a similar commute ahead) and on the assurance that there won't be any sex tonight because of the hotel situation. All the same, "I'm in love" "Will you see me tomorrow?" (yes, at 9pm...)

so, here i am. i know there's alot of good in this, but I can't quite figure out how to play the cards. I don't want to play games and wrap someone around my finger if they earnestly feel this way about me, but I don't buy into the intensity... I think it's some kind of Mexican way of trying to get laid or of just flirting that's way too intense for my liking... Well, I'll have to face it tomorrow, one way or another...

[XanBcoo]

First an older woman and now a Hispanic hottie.

Christ, masa. Stop living my dreams and complaining about them

Edit: But seriously, good luck with that. Though I think you're right on your assumption of it just being a "Mexican thing". Part of me wants to say it's a language issue, since I know certain phrases like "te quiero" and "me encantas" don't carry the same meaning in Spanish as they do in English. The language itself can be quite expressive like that, and perhaps that's just manifested in the intensity you're picking up on??

Or she could just be a crazy clinger-girl. *shrugs*

[masamuneehs]

word, thanks for the vote of confidence xan. we meet tonight at 9pm, and I'm really looking forward to it, although their won't be any nookie... also, i'm not quite sure i'm living out your dream...

also, what is up with this place? Does nobody have a sex life? How about a relationship? Someone they're dating? Someone they like? ANYTHING? Maybe DF is right, Gotwoot somehow serves as a massive cockblock for almost everyone on it... Come on people, there's got to be a couple of you out there that can post in here!

[Iridani]

So many relationship problems... so little time.

Life's short, make the most of it while you can Although personally I've learned 99% of the "knights in shining armor" are just a bunch of idiot jerks in tinfoil. I'm still holding out for a sane guy lol

@ Masa: So... does this mean I'm cursed by GW too now? :P

[masamuneehs]

well, you're still a girl...

My one (female) friend once put it as thus: It's not fair that girls are marked as sluts if they decide they want to sleep around, be in an open relationship or whatever! Guys that do that are called 'pimps' 'players' and have a good reputation for doing exactly what girls get slammed for.

Me: 'Yeah, but at least almost all girls can get sex whenever they want. There's a sort of skill involved with being a pimp that just isn't there when you're a slut'

Girl: '...Hm... I think I know what you're getting at. For a guy to get laid he has to push and act suave and use all this effort, buying drinks, saying the right things, playing the game right... For girls, whenever we want to get fucked we can just go 'Okay boys, I'm ready!' and they'll be lining up.'

So, Iridani, no, I don't think the Gotwoot curse applies to you, or to any females. You might be dealing with tinfoil wannabe squires, but the fact of the matter is it's often very different for guys and girls.

Also, i don't think i apply for the 'getting cockblocked by Gotwoot' rule anymore... I've had two awesome nights out of the past three with the Mexican dramatist, and a final one coming up tonight... Then again, I don't think this 'curse' applies to Terra either... God only knows if it applies to Y...

[Iridani]

So many it applies to :P

Anyway... very different but a lot the same. If only people came with signs around their necks with a manual stating sanity levels and such before you even speak with them lol Might make things easier on us. Oh well! It's half the "fun"

[XanBcoo]

Here's something I could use helping with.

I'm still trying for the girl I mentioned about 2 months ago. I added her on Facebook, but all I can really do is talk through that (which I have been doing) since I'm in England at the moment. But I'm thinking of asking for her number when I get back. Or maybe asking if she wants to meet up on campus sometime or go eat lunch or something. Basically anything to let her know I'm interested.

[Iridani]

Here's something I could use helping with.

I'm still trying for the girl I mentioned about 2 months ago. I added her on Facebook, but all I can really do is talk through that (which I have been doing) since I'm in England at the moment. But I'm thinking of asking for her number when I get back. Or maybe asking if she wants to meet up on campus sometime or go eat lunch or something. Basically anything to let her know I'm interested.

Don't be thinking too long about it, things left unsaid tend to bite you in the butt later on. Take the chance and ask for the number or to go for lunch I mean... if you don't ask. You don't get it. Ask... she could say yes. Or no. Either way there's still A chance in there ^^