I want to get married and have 4-5 children before i'm 40. i'm currently studying Communication & Multimedia Design and will probably get my diploma in the next 4 years. And i will probably get married 1 year after i get it.
I want to get married and have 4-5 children before i'm 40. i'm currently studying Communication & Multimedia Design and will probably get my diploma in the next 4 years. And i will probably get married 1 year after i get it.
So then you'll have 4-5 friends and none of them can say no to being your friend.Originally Posted by Turkish-S
I wouldn't really consider getting married to being an ambition. Getting married should be a result of being in love, not a goal premeditated before you even find someone. Getting married in the face of adversity from family members, maybe. Having children in the face of impotence, yeah I can see it. Those factors aside, marriage/children often represent a hurdle of personal ambition when there's still plenty of personal growth to be had.
My ambition is to have no kids so I can offset a family that decides to have more than 2 kids.
Last edited by Assertn; Thu, 12-20-2007 at 01:04 PM.
10/4/04 - 8/20/07
Odd how in popular culture "marriage" is represented as the ultimate goal of a relationship. Nothing about the troubles and trials of married life. I mean, I'd love to be married someday, but people don't seem to understand exactly what you just said.
Just "marriage = victory!"
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
I think you can still have plenty of personal growth when you're in a marriage. Then you can grow together or have someone to even you out or pull you back when your growth takes you in the wrong direction.
You left out the "until way down the road". There is money to be made in either field, which is not the ultimate goal, but necessary for the journey. It's just further down the road in these fields. Are you a linguistics or sociology major?
“For God will not permit that we shall know what is to come... those who by some sorcery or by some dream might come to pierce the veil that lies so darkly over all that is before them may serve by just that vision to cause that God should wrench the world from its heading and set it upon another course altogether and then where stands the sorcerer? Where the dreamer and his dream?”
I left it out as a joke. I'm just really worried about what I'm gonna do with my Linguistics degree and people keep giving me flack.
Edit: and obviously I agree about the marriage thing. Just sayin'...popular culture and all...Just look at any "romantic movie". It always ends just as the guy and girl get together. Rarely anything afterwards.
<@Terra> he told me this, "man actually meeting terra is so fucking big", and he started crying. Then he bought me hot dogs
I figured it was obvious.
Why do you think they call it "settling down"?
Having a family is the point where you stop developing your own potential and start developing others' potential. That's fine and all, but the better off you yourself are when you make the transition, the more you'll be able to help others.
10/4/04 - 8/20/07
I disagree both with it being obvious and that it means you stop developing as a person. I'm Asian, so marriage means something different to me than it might to you. I think the best marriages are the ones where both parties have their own interests and continue to develop as individuals, with plenty of overlap in interests (otherwise why marry?).
“For God will not permit that we shall know what is to come... those who by some sorcery or by some dream might come to pierce the veil that lies so darkly over all that is before them may serve by just that vision to cause that God should wrench the world from its heading and set it upon another course altogether and then where stands the sorcerer? Where the dreamer and his dream?”
I'm getting married on the 5th of January. No, she isn't pregnant! jajaja. A couple years ago I really couldn't see myself getting married but it seems like a natural progression of things and is pretty exciting and stressful at the same time.
Current ambition : Use my 3-4 week break between classes to study and take my first certification test (microsoft 70-290) I just don't think I'm ready for my ccna even though i've taken all the classes... there is too much studying to do and I have too much going on right now to do that much studying. The microsoft one though, I've been able to apply alot of the stuff from my class into my job and It is alot easier to process.
Well, I can see where you're going, however I still think you have a few more opportunities when you position yourself such that you can get up and change your life at any time.
For example, would I have been able to pick up my life and move to the other end of the country 2 years ago if I was already married? I don't think I'd be nearly as far along as I am now if I had to compromise an alternative.
10/4/04 - 8/20/07
I agree with both Assertn and Animaniax (surprisingly). Probably more so with the latter, but I understand fully what you mean Assertn, and specifically to what you're saying you're right.
Anyway, my (very) short term ambition:
Get accepted to university in March/April. Go to university in september.
Join some sort of self defencer or martial arts thinger.
In the next few years:
Get my degree. (In Criminology)
Get the different certificates I need to get (i.e. first aid, swimming, etc.); simple enough.
Long term:
Join the military for a 3 year term.
Get my job as a police officer.
Try out for our national security/ anti-terrorism force (JTF2). Who knows if I'll ever make it though. The fail rate is like 75% and you need to be in INSANE shape to get in.
So there's a few things i'm sure none of you care about.
[21:48] * DO furiously masturbates to #gotwoot
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Those are some nice ambitions, difficult and challenging yet achievable. Unlike some of us who just have random goals or ambitions about who, what or where we want to be, that we always talk about but never attempt to achieve. Your ambitions are nice and each one is a step that will assist you in achieving another. I wish my future was that clear cut, heck I wish I knew what direction my future who go in or if I will have one altogether.
My ambition is pretty simple. I want change, I detest my life and I abhor the person I have become and how I have allowed myself to become disillusion and have put up walls around everyone in my life. My ambition although its a bit vague is simply to become a better person and to allow myself to be vulnerable. I intend to change every single aspect of my life and that will be the only goal I will be working towards henceforth until I'm satisfied that I have done enough.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
Yeah you have to make some tough decisions when you're married, but I think that's part of what marriage is about. One or the other or both will have to compromise for the sake of the whole, or so that one or the other can accomplish their goals, again for the sake of the both of them (hopefully). I think it's definitely going to be tougher, as ambitions often take time and a lot of energy that could otherwise be used on the relationship, and can tax a relationship to the breaking point. At least that's how it is in the soap operas I watch.
“For God will not permit that we shall know what is to come... those who by some sorcery or by some dream might come to pierce the veil that lies so darkly over all that is before them may serve by just that vision to cause that God should wrench the world from its heading and set it upon another course altogether and then where stands the sorcerer? Where the dreamer and his dream?”
Wow you watch soaps. My respect for you has been utterly obliterated. Are you saying that you haven't ever been in a relationship or you simply aren't in one now.
Relationships take a lot of work but it can work if both people respect and acknowledge each other enough to sacrifice for each other and help each other to achieve their goals. In the end thats the true test of a relationship or love for that matter, whether are not you are willing to compromise, sacrifice and give of yourself for someone else. At that point you will find out whether there was anything there or if the relationship was simply one of convenience. However there is only so much most people are willing or can be expected to sacrifice.
Dreaming impossible dreams.
Sapphire is awesome!
No, the soaps comment was a joke. I didn't want to sound like a relationship expert or something girly. I do watch a lot of J-dramas, but those aren't really anything like American soap operas. But at least now our mutual respect for each other is at the same level.
“For God will not permit that we shall know what is to come... those who by some sorcery or by some dream might come to pierce the veil that lies so darkly over all that is before them may serve by just that vision to cause that God should wrench the world from its heading and set it upon another course altogether and then where stands the sorcerer? Where the dreamer and his dream?”
That's strange, could have sworn I replied to this topic. Or at least one similar to this.
Ambitions:
1. Become able to live on my drumming skills (by freelancing/playing in my band etc). Not as in "I want to get rich by playing rock musicz!!!" but as in earning enough to pay the bills by simultaneously doing what I think is the coolest thing in the world.
2. Conceiving a daughter named Luna.
3. Dipping mint chocolates in Vanilla Coke for potential taste orgasm
That's basically it. I'm a simple man with simple needs!
In the Last couple months, I've been working a LOT harder than used to, But what surprises the most is not so much the fact that I'm working so much (Normally I'm major slacker/procrastinator), but the fact that I'm actually enjoying all the hard work, a lot. There's something inherently magical about seeing your large amounts of efforts pay off. I think I can honestly say that attending art school was one of the best decisions of my life.
Oh shit, does this mean I'm finally starting to grow up? Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
But anyways, my ambition for this spring and summer now that my classes are going to be over is to bust out my dust covered tablet and learn how to paint using photoshop.
Longer term, my geeky goal is to one day become an illustrator or a concept artist for companies such as games workshop and Wizards of the Coast. I know i've got a long ways to go skill-wise, but it wouldn't be much of an ambition if it were easy to accomplish, now would it?
Last edited by Mr Squiggles; Wed, 04-30-2008 at 02:20 AM.
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So true. I really hope you succeed. I actually admire? people who have aspirations or any sort of goal, since I myself have been wondering without much of one for a few years now. Ever since high school, or even before, I'm just gotten into doing what's thrown at me. Uni was a very big decision for me, since it was the first real choice I had to make, but now that that's behind me, I still have a few more years while I mindlessly meet my deadlines. Setting goals is one of the few ways you can actually improve and build yourself. I wish I had more direction in my life.
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