The Bitching Thread

[Animeniax]

Netflix will soon start charging for DVDs in the mail and streaming separately for the same price as what I pay now for both services. Money grubbing bastards. Their selection sucks too. I'll be dropping their service when the new pricing goes into effect after Sept.

[Sapphire]

It's like they want you to torrent! Mwahahhahaha...

[rockmanj]

Netflix will soon start charging for DVDs in the mail and streaming separately for the same price as what I pay now for both services. Money grubbing bastards. Their selection sucks too. I'll be dropping their service when the new pricing goes into effect after Sept.

I don't think it is because they are particularly greedy. I have been reading about them for a few months, and it seems that a lot of the content generators (movie studios and cable stations, etc.) are not happy with the amount of money netflix has been making with their content, and is now charging them way more than they used to. For instance, their initial deal with Starz cost them $25 million a year, with their new deal (estimated) to be $250 million . Hollywood wants to get their money too (fairly understandable), so they charge netflix more, and the costs are passed on to consumers.

[Buffalobiian]

And when consumers are faced with costs and seek an alternative to their needs... the vicious cycle continues..

[Assertn]

fuckin netflix

[IFHTT]

fuckin netflix

echoing that sentiment.

[Edort4]

Stress tests results failed.
Risk premium over 340 points.
State bonds to 10 years at 6'13%
New welfare state cuts in perspective.
Not enough GDP growth to fight unemployment (22%).
Probable interest rates rise.
Possible new money impression due to QE3 rising inflation and diluting savings.

My friking country is in the verge of going into stone age for the next 10-20 years and the share of reality shows and gossip shows are around 40% and prosecuted politicians get absolute majority.

Sick & tired. Monday when stock markets open will see if we sink into oblivion.

[Buffalobiian]

Parents.

Again.



So they always have this idea that what they're doing is right. Because their intentions are right. Because it's for (Enter Retarded Reason Here).

I turned on the stove, the kettle and took out some noodles after work to let the water heat up while I take my showe. I come out of the shower, notice the smell of cooked noodles in the air, and knew someone had touched my shit.

But I play nice anyway, go out, asked if someone cooked my food for me, and said "Thanks, but no thanks. Please don't do it again next time."

Then starts the crap about "caring for each other" and shit and how rude I was. That I'm not being appreciative when I'm being helped.


Get. This.



This isn't about me, it's about you. You're helping me because you want to do something to help me, because it makes you feel better as a parent if you're doing something for me. But guess what. I'm not being helped.

I never asked you to do something. I don't even know when I want something, and how I want it done. So what makes you think you've got a chance? And so.. my noodles were soggy as fuck because she can't get the timing or the method right. (to clarify, I'm angry at this whole idea/event, not that I got soggy noodles. I'll be just as angry if it was firm)

When I came home, there was also some soup that she had prepared for me which I had to chug down despite not wanting it since it's already cooked. Just because I wanted soup last week, and had soup (and only soup) for dinner every single night last week, doesn't mean I do this week. And even if I do, how do you know which soup to make?

Now, when you're reading this, I know some of you, if not most of you, will think I'm some kind of unappreciative asshole who's being picky as fuck about the food my mum made for me.

BUT. But.. that's because you don't know that I've already acknowledged this with her. She's already complained that it's hard to prepare for dinner if I'm being so impulsively random. So I've given her clear instructions on this. DON'T PREPARE DINNER FOR ME. ASSUME I'M NOT EATING DINNER.

Simple? Easy to understand? I think so.

I don't expect you to be able to guess at my preferences. Not even I can until it happens. So.. don't try.

When you don't know, or something hasn't had a precedence, I play nice and say "Thanks, that was nice of you. But really, don't do it again next time."

When you don't acknowledge this and keep going, it's no longer about helping me. It's about making you feel good to think you're helping me. In the end man, it's about fulfilling your own desires and to feel good that you've been a good mother.

What's funny is - she tells my dad to stop buying things for her because he doesn't know her preference and what she likes or sees as aesthetically pleasing.

SAME. FUCKING. IDEA.

Times like these, I just feel the only way I can vent is to punch a hole in my door. Again.

[rockmanj]

Gah! My tooth just broke out of nowhere, and my insurance coverage ended 2 weeks ago :\.

[Sapphire]

Parents.

Again.



So they always have this idea that what they're doing is right. Because their intentions are right. Because it's for (Enter Retarded Reason Here).

I turned on the stove, the kettle and took out some noodles after work to let the water heat up while I take my showe. I come out of the shower, notice the smell of cooked noodles in the air, and knew someone had touched my shit.

But I play nice anyway, go out, asked if someone cooked my food for me, and said "Thanks, but no thanks. Please don't do it again next time."

Then starts the crap about "caring for each other" and shit and how rude I was. That I'm not being appreciative when I'm being helped.


Get. This.



This isn't about me, it's about you. You're helping me because you want to do something to help me, because it makes you feel better as a parent if you're doing something for me. But guess what. I'm not being helped.

I never asked you to do something. I don't even know when I want something, and how I want it done. So what makes you think you've got a chance? And so.. my noodles were soggy as fuck because she can't get the timing or the method right. (to clarify, I'm angry at this whole idea/event, not that I got soggy noodles. I'll be just as angry if it was firm)

When I came home, there was also some soup that she had prepared for me which I had to chug down despite not wanting it since it's already cooked. Just because I wanted soup last week, and had soup (and only soup) for dinner every single night last week, doesn't mean I do this week. And even if I do, how do you know which soup to make?

Now, when you're reading this, I know some of you, if not most of you, will think I'm some kind of unappreciative asshole who's being picky as fuck about the food my mum made for me.

BUT. But.. that's because you don't know that I've already acknowledged this with her. She's already complained that it's hard to prepare for dinner if I'm being so impulsively random. So I've given her clear instructions on this. DON'T PREPARE DINNER FOR ME. ASSUME I'M NOT EATING DINNER.

Simple? Easy to understand? I think so.

I don't expect you to be able to guess at my preferences. Not even I can until it happens. So.. don't try.

When you don't know, or something hasn't had a precedence, I play nice and say "Thanks, that was nice of you. But really, don't do it again next time."

When you don't acknowledge this and keep going, it's no longer about helping me. It's about making you feel good to think you're helping me. In the end man, it's about fulfilling your own desires and to feel good that you've been a good mother.

What's funny is - she tells my dad to stop buying things for her because he doesn't know her preference and what she likes or sees as aesthetically pleasing.

SAME. FUCKING. IDEA.

Times like these, I just feel the only way I can vent is to punch a hole in my door. Again.

I just think parents from foreign countries don't get how specific our western generation is when it comes to food.

[Kraco]

Move out, Bill. Problem solved. Nobody will help you then. At least until you find a wife and make your own kids to offer your unwanted help to...

[darkshadow]

Well buff doesn't even want kids....

[Buffalobiian]

I just think parents from foreign countries don't get how specific our western generation is when it comes to food.

It doesn't have to do with food. That's an example of what happened.

The whole idea is that they try to do something, and when you tell them to stop because they're doing it wrong, they continue to do so anyway just so they feel like they're doing something.

[enkoujin]

The bigger issue here aren't your parents. The issue here is why you would leave the kitchen with the stove on to take a shower.

This sounds like a potential fire risk in which your mother took precautionary measures to protect her and your life, protect her property assets and prepare you a meal all at the same time.

It also sounds to me like your parents are those one-perspective typical Asian parents who bitch at you for practising and assimilating yourself in European-originated culture and mannerisms. A lot of first-generation citizens with immigrant parents have to deal with the same situation, but I strongly believe that if you have a good talk with them politely explaining your preferences and make a genuine attempt at understanding their love for you, you will a healthier relationship with your parents.

If talking too much is too much of a hassle, I would just bite the bullet for the sake of your mental health and their's as well. Once your parents are gone, you'll be wishing they can do the same things they're doing now for you even if they are annoying.

[Buffalobiian]

The bigger issue here aren't your parents. The issue here is why you would leave the kitchen with the stove on to take a shower.

I put enough water in the pot so it'll take like 40 minutes to dry out. There's really no risk until that happens.

It also sounds to me like your parents are those one-perspective typical Asian parents who bitch at you for practising and assimilating yourself in European-originated culture and mannerisms. A lot of first-generation citizens with immigrant parents have to deal with the same situation, but I strongly believe that if you have a good talk with them politely explaining your preferences and make a genuine attempt at understanding their love for you, you will a healthier relationship with your parents.

Ah.. the good old talk. I don't even know how many times we've tried this. And it always ends unsuccessfully too - the "good" talk.

[enkoujin]

It's probably because you're not going for a "win-win" situation. Don't compromise or maliciously obey. Don't end in a deal where your parents win and you lose. The same is true with the opposite - don't let your parents lose and have you solely win.

Keep on talking if it takes days, weeks and months to understand each other and establish firm ground. You establish that you appreciate their love and you show it on a weekly or daily basis. In return, they will respect your privacy, growth, maturity and the way you do your own things. The key thing here is not to impose your opinion on them, but to bear everything they throw at you and be resilient during the entire talk. Do not let your spirit nor your mind falter and genuinely try to have a good sit-down talk with them. Prepare examples, a script, anecdotes, etc. if you have to do so. It also might be effective to bring in an arbiter or someone with slightly more liberal views who are close to your parents. Your parents are more likely to listen to this arbiter than to you, from what it sounds like.

If all else fails, Kraco's idea is the most viable for getting away from this situation, but keep in mind that they'll be more worried sick about you if you haven't earned their trust and respect for your methods judging from this incident and multiples that you have claimed. It will deteriorate their health in the long-run because your radicalism opposing centuries worth of deeply rooted tradition will, from their point of view, shame them to their graves.

[Kraco]

The bigger issue here aren't your parents. The issue here is why you would leave the kitchen with the stove on to take a shower.

This sounds like a potential fire risk in which your mother took precautionary measures to protect her and your life, protect her property assets and prepare you a meal all at the same time.

I do that all the time. Although I don't have a gas stove (almost nobody does in this country) but an electric one. I can even leave something to boil and go take the trash out, not only take a shower. Although I haven't ever gone any further than that, certainly not to a grocery shop nearby or anything.

[shinta|hikari]

@Buff and his issue - I absolutely understand. It took me years to beat my mother into submission (not literally), but even then she lapses from time to time. She basically has nothing else to do in life but to interfere with my affairs (this one literally) so that is what she does to pass the time.

I've also tried the "good" talk, around 400 times (no, that is not an exaggeration. If anything I lowballed it.), but it never really worked. What worked was me moving out and working or studying overseas. She got bored out of her mind (until I got back) and in fear of me leaving again she tries her best to stop being pesky.

On the subject of cooking, I also keep telling my mother to stop doing it for me (or anyone else) not because of preference but because she sucks at it. I, on the other hand, am skilled at it so I cook most of the meals for the two of us. The rest of the time we buy from restaurants or other food establishments.

[Archangel]

Fucking HDMI cables, 5 meters set me off by 35 euros even with a 10 euro discount

[Xelbair]

Parents.

Again.



So they always have this idea that what they're doing is right. Because their intentions are right. Because it's for (Enter Retarded Reason Here).

I turned on the stove, the kettle and took out some noodles after work to let the water heat up while I take my showe. I come out of the shower, notice the smell of cooked noodles in the air, and knew someone had touched my shit.

But I play nice anyway, go out, asked if someone cooked my food for me, and said "Thanks, but no thanks. Please don't do it again next time."

Then starts the crap about "caring for each other" and shit and how rude I was. That I'm not being appreciative when I'm being helped.


Get. This.



This isn't about me, it's about you. You're helping me because you want to do something to help me, because it makes you feel better as a parent if you're doing something for me. But guess what. I'm not being helped.

I never asked you to do something. I don't even know when I want something, and how I want it done. So what makes you think you've got a chance? And so.. my noodles were soggy as fuck because she can't get the timing or the method right. (to clarify, I'm angry at this whole idea/event, not that I got soggy noodles. I'll be just as angry if it was firm)

When I came home, there was also some soup that she had prepared for me which I had to chug down despite not wanting it since it's already cooked. Just because I wanted soup last week, and had soup (and only soup) for dinner every single night last week, doesn't mean I do this week. And even if I do, how do you know which soup to make?

Now, when you're reading this, I know some of you, if not most of you, will think I'm some kind of unappreciative asshole who's being picky as fuck about the food my mum made for me.

BUT. But.. that's because you don't know that I've already acknowledged this with her. She's already complained that it's hard to prepare for dinner if I'm being so impulsively random. So I've given her clear instructions on this. DON'T PREPARE DINNER FOR ME. ASSUME I'M NOT EATING DINNER.

Simple? Easy to understand? I think so.

I don't expect you to be able to guess at my preferences. Not even I can until it happens. So.. don't try.

When you don't know, or something hasn't had a precedence, I play nice and say "Thanks, that was nice of you. But really, don't do it again next time."

When you don't acknowledge this and keep going, it's no longer about helping me. It's about making you feel good to think you're helping me. In the end man, it's about fulfilling your own desires and to feel good that you've been a good mother.

What's funny is - she tells my dad to stop buying things for her because he doesn't know her preference and what she likes or sees as aesthetically pleasing.

SAME. FUCKING. IDEA.

Times like these, I just feel the only way I can vent is to punch a hole in my door. Again.

I have the same problem. it is fucking annoying. I want to do something in way A, they say 'do it in way B!'. If i don't they will fucking keep yelling, and create overall shitstorm. fuck this i really need to move away.
Also my dad lately haves this weird mood shifts - from being normal to full-rage mode for no apparent reason.