For the broken hearts...

[Madell]

I feal sorry for you dude..AAnd I'm now sorry i made fun of you in the past months....
I had something like this 2 but a friend made out with my girl....but I'm not going ot make a topic about this because im not so popular like you on this site

[Jurojin]

" and not a moment spent without living in fear of getting left in your dust again."


I don't doubt that she lost her mind in dumping you like that again, but is there the possibility that going into this with the above attitude (no matter how understandable the sentiment is) didn't help matters much, or even worse, she got that vibe from you and got spooked because she felt you didn't trust her?

Not wanting to play devil's advocate here, as I'm sure she's at fault in this, but sometimes a little inspection of what you were doing helps. If you feel that wasn't the case, after giving it an honest look, then, well, ignore this post [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif[/img]

[Assertn]

No matter how i look at it, i can't imagine a relationship like that lasting much longer at this point anyway. It might of just been an act of desperation that brought you both together again after the first break-up. The sudden sense of loneliness has that effect.

It would be for your own good to just give up on her

[Terracosmo]

I agree with both of you. You both have very valid points and thoughts which I've also had in my mind.
I guess, ultimately, it's for the best. And well... part of me feels like a huge rock lying on my back just have been removed.
Unfortunately, it's yet too early for that part to take full control. But whatever, that's life.

The thing with feelings is that they tend to make things a lot harder than they should be.

[Jurojin]

Well, at the least, youll always have Yzak...... [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif[/img]


I had all this information on things that might help if she does come back, but I don't know how to put it and I'm not even sure you want the info in the first place-

All I can say is that in every failed relationship I've had (and boy are there quite a few), things were foiled by a lack of communication when things were wrong: I'm not psychic, and while sometimes I'll know when I've crossed the line, there are times I'll be doing my normal thing, it upsets her, she doesn't tell me, then *poof* "I can't do this any more, I can't deal with ________" when I would have gladly stopped it if I could had I known it was even a problem.

It sounds, to me from an outside view, that this is what happened- you were doing something you always do, and she didn't tell you it bothered her (from a fear of you being upset with her for telling you you're bothering her, most likely), then it just kept bothering her until finally she couldn't take it anymore. From what you said before, and assuming she thinks like that, there's a major issue with trust that needs to be dealt with on both sides before you jump into it again. You didn't trust her to not dump you out of the blue, and she didn't trust you enough to bring problems up to you before they became relationship killers. With either of these in play in a relationship, I'll wager every time that the relationship will fail, and usually in a bad way.

Just some things to keep in mind.


*tosses Yzak plushie to Terra*
Enjoy [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif[/img]

[Assertn]

Originally posted by: Terracosmo
I agree with both of you. You both have very valid points and thoughts which I've also had in my mind.
I guess, ultimately, it's for the best. And well... part of me feels like a huge rock lying on my back just have been removed.
Unfortunately, it's yet too early for that part to take full control. But whatever, that's life.

The thing with feelings is that they tend to make things a lot harder than they should be.

<nod> The best thing to do is be affirmitive in your decision...no second guessing

[ChaosK]

i say dont go back to her again, like assertn said, the relationship cant go much further after what happened.

[GuardianShado]

i didnt want to make a new thread for a topic that's already, well, in existence. so i'll just go on with what little rambling's been on my mind lately.

i'm still in high school, so i don't know if i can say i've had my experiences with love yet. i've had my fair share of crushes throughout my high school years, and it's now my senior year. i've fallen for one of my closest friends, if not my closest friend. i guess i've kind of been blinded to it at first or even in denial, since i always came to her when i needed advice about girls and the such. hell, when i had a crush on one of our close friends, i pretty much hung out with her every day so that i could get closer to our friend. i don't know how long it took, but it might've been all the bike rides we did. during the summer we'd go out nearly every day on our bikes to just hang out and talk about these kinds of things, along with any other subjects that might've been brought up. i've known her since 7th grade, but never really noticed her until junior year-- just last year-- when i started to really hang out with her.
anyway, two weeks ago i'd finally gathered up the balls to go on another bike ride with her and confess to her how i felt. i felt good about what i'd done until i came home and she told me online that she didn't feel the same way yet. okay, i thought, maybe i'd just come on too strongly. i was focused on the word yet. so last thursday, i asked her out to the homecoming dance, which is a month away. turned down because i asked her as an "i like you" date rather than as a friendly thing. DAMN IT! it took me a while to realize how much i'd screwed up our friendship, if not relationship. it feels like she's rubbing in the fact that she doesn't like me, because to make things worse, she's actually helping me get over her. just yesterday she'd confirmed with me that she wouldn't go out with me. great.
now i just don't know how to feel or what to do about myself anymore. i mean i've basically got a failing GPA and pretty crummy sat scores, meaning it'd be best for me to transfer from a community college first. she, on the other hand, complains that she won't be able to make it into UC Davis, which is pretty close within her grasp if she ever thought about it realistically. after high school, we would most likely be separated for at least a year since i don't have much choice but to transfer. i don't know how to look at that now. it's only the beginning of the school year, but damn it, reality is finally hitting me with a blunt rusted object in the back of my head. i keep telling myself that i've got a year to fix things up between the two of us, whatever needs to be fixed. but... ah fuck it. i don't even know anymore. haven't slept in a few days. i'm just ranting here =\