For the broken hearts...

[basey44]

Originally posted by: LobsterMagnet
Didn't any of you see the most recent Star Wars? Don't go for revenge. Honestly getting revenge on the girl or on any other girl will not bring about any form of satisfaction. It will just make you feel hollow and empty on the inside and futher expand on already growing emotional void. Rebound relationships arn't much better since they only reinforce the idea that a relationship is nothing more then then an expendable commodity. One thing I really hate about the whole dating scene is how relationships are seen are treated as neccesary accessories to one's personal lifestyle. You have to listen to the right music, you have to go to the right parties, and you have to have a girlfriend/boyfriend. One thing I hate about contemporary society/ media is how relatiohships are treated as an tradeable commodity. There is very little intimacy, a boyfriend/girlfriend is something one MUST have if one is considered to be a healthy fully functioning member of society.

umm have you HAD a girlfriend, when your with her nothing else really matters, for both of you. all the bullshit you just spoke of flies out the window. the whole thing with the rebound girls is to show yourself that you can live without your ex, something which i dont really like to do that much cos i dun wanna hurt someone else just to get over my own pain, but if you can find someone else like you, or someone not really looking for a real relationship you can be eachothers inbetween people, because if theres one thing ive learnt over the years its that no one likes to be alone


edit to below: haha thats gold

[Mut]

<+Y> lobstermagnets post = "I have never had a girlfriend"
<Souryusen> Nah, he was probably just somebody elses rebound.
<%Mut[at]chi> I bet he is just a butt fag

[ChaosK]

haha, you DID post it after all.

[Assertn]

Originally posted by: basey44
the whole thing with the rebound girls is to show yourself that you can live without your ex

im pretty sure the whole thing with the rebound girls is to find a quick solution to the sudden depression a person would normally experience after just being dumped

not to make an ex jealous [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif[/img]

[masamuneehs]

my friend my friend there is an old saying about women (or men) and there being "Many fish in the sea" I know it is rough now, but you'll turn out meeting someone else and they'll be worth ten times more to you because, when it all falls into place with the right one, that person will return your feelings. The most important thing to do is weather the bad times without causing too much tension.

A fisherman is patient. Remember, you only need to catch one out of all the ones out there. Maybe this one felt like "the one", but honestly, perhaps she was just the kind of fish you like best. If she's a Bass, go to the Great Lakes, if she's a Marlin, salt water, Salmon in Alaska. You know what I'm getting at (i hope)

You also need the right bait to lure the right type of fish. As trivial, superficial and whatnot as it sounds, dressing a certain way, using certain lines, telling certain flavors of jokes or stories and engaging in certain kinds of activities when you're out and about in the great gene pool will really affect what kind of fish you attract. Even if its not who you really are, it might get her to bite and then you can reveal your real self to her as things progress.

Reeling in the fish is the hardest part, it's also what I'm the worst at. I always jerk the rod or make a move right when there is just a little bit of tug or nibble on the line... Premature overreactions will kill you. You have to let the fish do the work for you, make it want to eat the whole bait. Making the bait attractive and lively is maybe the most important fisherman's skill!

After they bite down and are hooked they might fight to get away. This leaves you without that bait (or mangled bait), harms the fish, and can even damage your rod. The fights are the hard part to weather because unlike the rest of this analogy the "Reel 'Em In FAST FAST FAST" strategy of fishing often doesn't apply.... And you also have the problem of, even after landing them in the boat, making them stay. Fish can't walk out the door on ya...

So go get tore up and go fishing!

[Uchiha Barles]

ROFL!! This is the most insightful thing I've ever read on how to approach the fairer sex. What kind of girl can I lure with fly bait?

[GuardianShado]

LMAO!!!!
i always thought the complete metaphor was to eat the fish XP hahaha guess i was wrong. good stuff

[The Heretic Azazel]

HOLY EXAGGERATED ANALOGY BATMAN.

[Assassin]

i feel ur pain terra....i've been thru one of those breakups myself. infact, i can do one better. my break up was over msn, and thru a mutual friend. trust me, thats one low u dont wanna experience after losing "the one".

im not gonna try and give u some bs advice about what to do, cuz everyone is different, and it may or may not have any effect on u.

all i'll say is this. try to look at this from the outside, as an observer. ask ur self what u would do/say if this happened to a friend of urs. wahtever teh asnwer, thats what u should try to do. at the moment u wont be able to think logicaly, and u'll just try to find a quick fix (like the tree thing). u need to see whats best for u, without being confused by ur emotional state.

in teh worst case scenario, i can tell u that time heals all......well almost all. so just be ur yzak obessed self, and get on with ur life as best u can. i hope things get easier soon man. best of luck.

ps: i prefer banging my fist on my head. its softer tehn tree bark, and u can use both hands at once for maximum effect.

[Kezren]

I know how you feel Terra. About three years back I met a girl, and I thought that I had finally found something meaningful in my life, she was something that I held above all. To be in her presence was a greater gift than I could have asked for or imagined. The relationship was also the most lasting, where before I would be with someoen for a week and get bored then move on, with her I was going on a year and a half. Suddenly somewhere during the middle of the second to be year, we began to get a bit rocky things didnt feel the same and she felt the need to sever the relationship. Left now alone and with a beleif that my life had no more meaning I was in a depressive state for far too long, and though I never allowed myself to play with the thought of suicide, it was always in the back of my mind. After a month or two I just decided to let myself become bitter and cynical about the thought of love in general and keep the beleif that one should never leave themselves open for injury again.

So I have atleast an Inkling to how you feel, and I hope the best for you. And suggest you try to take your mind off it as best as possible. Dwelling on the problem can only make you feel worse.

Edited for spelling.

[masamuneehs]

Originally posted by: The Heretic Azazel
HOLY EXAGGERATED ANALOGY BATMAN.

Hey I'm just trying to help... And analogies are probably one of the clearest ways I can communicate with people without tripping all over my words and thoughts.

Besides, I find that analogy helps me step back from whatever situation I'm in and that helps me think rationally about my actions and the circumstances. It's too easy to get overwhelmed by emotions and just blindly react without thinking of teh consequences. But if you step back to think about it like a sport or like something devoid of those emotions then you can make a logical choice or grasp a better handle on the situation.

Of course... then again emotions are a huge part of relationships and one has to act on them sometimes and be especially sensitive of your partner's emotions and feelings all the time.

I love catfish

[PSJ]

Originally posted by: LobsterMagnet
Didn't any of you see the most recent Star Wars? Don't go for revenge. Honestly getting revenge on the girl or on any other girl will not bring about any form of satisfaction. It will just make you feel hollow and empty on the inside and futher expand on already growing emotional void. Rebound relationships arn't much better since they only reinforce the idea that a relationship is nothing more then then an expendable commodity. One thing I really hate about the whole dating scene is how relationships are seen are treated as neccesary accessories to one's personal lifestyle. You have to listen to the right music, you have to go to the right parties, and you have to have a girlfriend/boyfriend. One thing I hate about contemporary society/ media is how relatiohships are treated as an tradeable commodity. There is very little intimacy, a boyfriend/girlfriend is something one MUST have if one is considered to be a healthy fully functioning member of society.

are you serious? just the begining with the star wars reference throws me off. im not sure if it is serious or not.....

@masamuneehs: that analogy is good actually. i like it.

[Xollence]

Hehe yeah it's much better than the Star Wars analogy.

You must love fishing.

[ChaosK]

i think he's being serious with the starwars refrence

[basey44]

thats because the only loving hes ever had is with his right hand

[ES]

Lmao...uhm guys...this is why they invented prozac [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]

[weakest anbu]

this is nothing compare to the pain i went thru. my xgf tried to stick a dildo up my ass while we were having sex. I was like.............................................. ...............................................

[The Heretic Azazel]

I would have given her a Dutch Oven dude. Or a Hot Karl.

A straight man's ass should never be penetrated.

[PSJ]

Originally posted by: weakest anbu
this is nothing compare to the pain i went thru. my xgf tried to stick a dildo up my ass while we were having sex. I was like.............................................. ...............................................

Erm Terra's stuff is serious. not the time to joke around.

[weakest anbu]

did you think I was asking for a fucking smiley face or "LOL" or somthing... its real story not bs. its the aftermath that hurt more...