For the broken hearts...

[Uchiha Barles]

I'm gonna take the risky move here and defend the chick. Terra, you're 18 right? I assume the girl is comparable to you in age. At this age, most people really aren't looking for a serious relationship that'll last till death do them apart. "There's no more passion" is a total non-bs excuse for the break up. If you're mature to the point that you could settle down with a girl right now if she was right, then that's super hot. But only for the girl who's as mature as you, loves you as you love her, aka the one. I hope you find her, seriously, but you could be in for some major heartache in the next few years. And buddy, please, don't go slamming your forehead against a tree. Her's maybe, but not yours. Depending on how hard you hit, the physical pain'll last longer than the heart ache. And it'll serve to remind you of her.

[basey44]

terra i suggest u doint stay alone, go out with friends try to enjoy life, maybe in a week ull find u were wrong about her and be over her too. if not try finding someone who isnt really interested in a serious relationship and slam her a few times it could make u feel a little better and show you that you dont need your ex anymore, if you dont wanna do that then do what makes you feel comfortable. i do feel your pain though, my gf broke up with me a few weeks ago and i really i only recently got over her thanks to a female friend of mine [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img].

[PSJ]

damn terra im sorry. i must say im very confused to, when you told me about her it seemed very serious. life sucks huh? we just gotta deal with it. see ya on msn, better to talk there.

[SK]

well terra just try and remember there are other girls out there even if it is hard to right now. imo, if you really think she is the one and dont want to lose her then try and go after her and see if you can salvage something.

[basey44]

i feel thats a bad idea sk, the best thing terra can do is try to get over her, thinking of having hope at another chance only leads to misery

[Terracosmo]

I want to thank you all for caring and bothering to read through what happened and so on.

Right now, everything feels very confusing. I don't know what's going to happen or what I should do.
I'm just leaning back, trying to think of something else. That usually works, for some reason.

Anyway, thanks again, it really does mean a lot to me!

[Xollence]

Originally posted by: basey44
i feel thats a bad idea sk, the best thing terra can do is try to get over her, thinking of having hope at another chance only leads to misery

No I agree with SK, you should try and get back with her, there's nothing to lose in trying and you might regret it later for not trying. I think the sooner the better. Just don't do it when you're drunk, and not by phone. Just because you guys broke up doesn't mean the relationship is over. All of my friends with girlfriends have broken up with them at least once or twice in their relationship and then immediately got back together.

Originally posted by: Foomanchew24
Well if her only basis for the relationship was passion then she is going to have a hard time finding someone for the long term, because passion is like lust and it fades over time. You have to find someone that you would like as a friend and who likes you the way you are ,assion fades but friendship and companionship can last if you pick the right person.

I'm sure there were other reasons, maybe she just didn't want to say. I got dumped for worse reasons. My ex, who was a hardcore christian, told me that she didn't feel like God wanted us together. Later on I found out the real reason, which was she liked another guy. I think most times girls don't give you the real reason for dumping you.

[LobsterMagnet]

Didn't any of you see the most recent Star Wars? Don't go for revenge. Honestly getting revenge on the girl or on any other girl will not bring about any form of satisfaction. It will just make you feel hollow and empty on the inside and futher expand on already growing emotional void. Rebound relationships arn't much better since they only reinforce the idea that a relationship is nothing more then then an expendable commodity. One thing I really hate about the whole dating scene is how relationships are seen are treated as neccesary accessories to one's personal lifestyle. You have to listen to the right music, you have to go to the right parties, and you have to have a girlfriend/boyfriend. One thing I hate about contemporary society/ media is how relatiohships are treated as an tradeable commodity. There is very little intimacy, a boyfriend/girlfriend is something one MUST have if one is considered to be a healthy fully functioning member of society.

[Assertn]

Originally posted by: Xollence
No I agree with SK, you should try and get back with her, there's nothing to lose in trying and you might regret it later for not trying. I think the sooner the better. Just don't do it when you're drunk, and not by phone. Just because you guys broke up doesn't mean the relationship is over. All of my friends with girlfriends have broken up with them at least once or twice in their relationship and then immediately got back together.

Nothing to lose in trying? No, there's alot to lose when you decide not to let go.
What reasons did your friends' girlfriends have for breaking up? breaking up over a fight is one thing, but breaking up because you just dont feel that the relationship will last is completely different. If she was already losing interest after dating for a few months, then i highly doubt there is much to salvage.

[Xollence]

Well it sounded like they were dating for more than a few months. And yeah for both reasons.

[Assertn]

i think when terra first said they started dating, it was sometime in February or March

[KitKat]

Originally posted by: Terracosmo
Yeah. Place grows on you.
I'm the same, rarely post much elsewhere. Gotwoot is particularly fun because you can write almost anything... especially when you are a veteran. ;D

Even though I'm not a veteran here, I consider gotwoot to be my online home. Nowhere else on the internet means as much to me. You guys are my family. As such, I hurt for you Terra. Relationships are messy and complicated. I have no advice for you, since I doubt anything I say would help you much. All I can say is that I'm here for you buddy, anytime you need someone to listen. *hugs*

[Lefty]

Terra just give it time and a lot booze. Just walk away from the relationship with all the good memories you want to keep, and throw away the bad ones. In a few days you'll sober up, or regain concousness and you'll get back out there and make the ladies squeel and pass out from your sexyness.

[darkshadow]

thats too bad terra, but im sure you'll get over her, and i think she gave you a bs reason

[ChaosK]

Originally posted by: SK
well terra just try and remember there are other girls out there even if it is hard to right now. imo, if you really think she is the one and dont want to lose her then try and go after her and see if you can salvage something.

i dont think chasing after her again would be a good idea either, you dont want to show how desprate you are, even if you are (i'm not saying you are at the moment terra.) Pride is something you need, if it was really "meant to be" then she should come back to you.

[Kagemane_no_Jutsu]

This place is deffinitly my "online home." Well here and good ol #gotwoot. Im really not thinking much about relationships right now. Im moving to florida as soon as school ends so I'm just trying to get with as many girls before I move XD. But once I start school in florida I'ma find a nice southern girl [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]

Edit: Terra you should be fine. Once you meet someone else, the girl you thought was perfect is now nothing in comparison to the new one.

[The Heretic Azazel]

The important thing is not being overly irrational with your behavior. Take your time to heal and evaluate yourself, because coming from someone who held on to a significant other for quite a while, it is important to know where you stand before you make the steps to correct your situation. All you have is time, and if it is to happen, it will take time. Understand your worth to others and appreciate that. You're 18, that's too early in life to really plan your future.

[GuardianShado]

i'd go with wut assertn said and say that there really isn't much to salvage. u've been goin out with her for a couple months (according to assertn) and she already says she isnt feeling the passion. that's not right. ur young terra, go live your life instead of wasting away to this situation. use wutever bad memories you have as a learning experience, and just keep the good memories in your head. wutever u do, dont long for the old times. u cant get them back, so just make new memories with another person. i'm sure you'll find someone when u start feeling better.

[Death BOO Z]

sorry, but i don't have the neccsery experince in romatic realtionships to even try and help you, but i can advice to you one thing, according to how i've seen my brother act, if it turns out she really isn't intrested in continuing the realtionship you had, don't try to get back to her by being a 'good friend', I've seen my brother doing so for almost a year, he would call her every day, come to pick her up from work, and try to intrest himself in her hobbies no matter what. she hated it, but was too nice of a person to tell him to stop, so he danced around her for the whole time without moving anywhere.

[Kairi]

Originally posted by: The Heretic Azazel
The important thing is not being overly irrational with your behavior.... You're 18, that's too early in life to really plan your future.

I agree. Trust me, I know how much pain you're in right now, but it will get better. Also, as cliche as it may sound, I'm a big believer that things happen for a reason... so I'm sure there is something better out there for you [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif[/img]