For the broken hearts...

[Terracosmo]

Forgive the angsty title of the topic, and let me explain the purpose of this.
Have you ever been dumped? Have you ever been hopelessly in love?

This is a place where we can discuss such matters and perhaps help each other feel better. Given that the average Wooter is 13 years old or extremely sarcastic/incapable of being serious, I'm sure that this topic will quickly die. But regardless, I need this place to vent.

I am sorry if any of the upcoming text will sound melodramatic and shit, I'm just really fucking depressed. Also, it's long and overly sentimental so only read it if you actually give a rat's ass about it. Otherwise, go down to the end of the post.

Well long story short: my gf dumped me today. I've had many relationships and connections with girls, but this was THE girl. If I ever was to "settle down" (might sound funny since I'm relatively young: 18) this would be her. Everything was great. Fantastic. Wonderful. Over-the-top.

But today things were different. She had acted differently for a while, and today I got to know why. Things didn't feel "right". She had "lost the passion". I don't know. I seriously still don't know. I feel like I've done something wrong, yet I've been myself through thick and thin and she leaves me on the road alone.

This is particularly weird, because I've always been the one to break up and start over. Always been the one to "make the rules" and whatnot. And now... I was just powerless, as I got tossed away.

So what did I do? I got drunk. Very drunk. And I smoked 2 packs of cigarettes. Then I ran into the woods and started hitting my head on the trees like a fucking 15-year old maniac. I don't know why, but it felt great.

After that, something very weird happened. I called one of my best female friends (time was at this point 2:30 am, in other words roughly an hour ago) and we went for a walk and I talked to her about it all. After the walk she asked herself in, and we went into my room. She started making out with me and before I knew we laid naked on my bed. We were about to have sex but I yelled "NO!" like a first-class drama queen. I couldn't. Nothing "happened". I was on the verge of being torn apart, for I imagined this girl to be my ex-girlfriend which had left me only hours before it happened. So my friend took her clothes and left, probably ashamed for making moves on a heartbroken man. Well, not like I did anything to prevent it... so I don't have any bad blood against her, but wtf. So yeah, now I'm sitting here with a cup of coffee and a bottle of whiskey and writing this.

I haven't created this topic to have you all feel pity for me. It's just that this is the one forum I regularly frequent, the one place online which I'd call "home". Most of you guys don't know me, and even some of the regulars here I don't know as well as I would like but I love this place to death regardless of the amount of Gundam spoilers I frequently see. That is why I feel like I can vent here, and admittedly it does make me feel a lot better.

Thanks to whoever read this, and if anyone has any heartbroken scenarios to share... feel free. Let this be a place for sad souls to mingle.

[ChaosK]

i'm not pitying you in a bad way but i am feeling bad for you. i'm wondering about what will happen between you and your friend, also might you think about giving HER a chance?

also how does coffee and whisky mix? [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif[/img]

[Mut]

Violence is the answer.

[Terracosmo]

Originally posted by: Chaoskiddo
i'm not pitying you in a bad way but i am feeling bad for you. i'm wondering about what will happen between you and your friend, also might you think about giving HER a chance?

also how does coffee and whisky mix? [img][/img]

Nah. She is too much of a friend to be considered a girlfriend.
Also, she happens to my best friend's younger sister.
In other words, he'll probably smack my ass up tomorrow.

Coffee & whiskey mixes like sex and the beach.

[ChaosK]

interesting anology...

[Paulyboy]

Dude, I know im gonna sound feminine but thats sad, thats never happened to me, but damn. Ive had like 3 g/f's and yah I still felt for them for awhile, then forgot about them and we are still all friends. One of my g/f's was my best friend which was my 1st g/f but man that was the girl I couldnt get over, after she broke up with me [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif[/img]. But you will get over it in time. Me and her are still best friends.

[Terracosmo]

That's good, that you remained friends.

Also, that post wasn't terribly feminine. I'd call it "normal". ;D

[ChaosK]

she totally dumped you? or a "lets be friends" dump?

[kAi]

You'll get over it might take a bit of time but yeah. A good idea is to go out with friends, and just do what you like doing, go clubbing or something.

[ChaosK]

terra you could always engulf yourself in anime reruns but i dont suggest that.

[Assertn]

chaoskiddo you dont just move on to the next person as soon as you're dumped like that......those are known as "rebound relationships" and you usually regain your senses eventually and wonder wtf were you thinking at the time

it's nice to see people consider this place like their home. Most people would think of this place as just some anime forum, but for alot of us veterans, it just sorta became more than that. I for one have probably never logged more than 60 posts in any other forum.

[Terracosmo]

Yeah. Place grows on you.
I'm the same, rarely post much elsewhere. Gotwoot is particularly fun because you can write almost anything... especially when you are a veteran. ;D

[LobsterMagnet]

I believe there is a very thin line between love and lust and one quite often gets confused with the other. Generally most relationships that take place around the 13-25 age brackety carry little to no weight what so ever. They are usually formed and based around superficial characteristics which is why they never tend to work out or last very long. At this point in the game any relationship formed dose not constituite anything more then a casual friendship with casual sex throwin inbetween. Longer lasting relationships are built around less transcient factors, while at first these factors may seem as important they often lead more solid and cohesive relationships. This can prove very interesting as in the United States has the highest divorce rate in the world and in many ways that can be attributed towards the heavy media focus on true love based on transient factors. While arranged marriages which have are completly abhored by the American media generally tend to no lead to divorce because in the arranging process many factors are taken into consideration.

[Mut]

The ninja mods are the veteran members' bestest friends!

[Assertn]

Originally posted by: LobsterMagnet
Generally most relationships that take place around the 13-25 age brackety carry little to no weight what so ever.

wow.....25 you say? so anyone who's parents are younger than 50 when they are 20 are usually formed in weak relationships?

I've heard in psychology a fact similiar to that, except i couldve sworn the age bracket is something more along the lines of 13-20.

While arranged marriages which have are completly abhored by the American media generally tend to no lead to divorce because in the arranging process many factors are taken into consideration.

yeah.....i've got news for you. Societies that support arranged marriages have very low divorce rates because divorce is strongly frowned upon in those societies (often to the point where death is better than divorce). Divorce is higher in America because of its acceptance, and its acceptance is higher in America because the degree of freedom we have with our relationships are higher.

You say that arranged process has many factors taken into consideration. These "many factors" usually consist of...
A) How beneficial it will be to the family for their daughter to marry into person X's house or
B) How beneficial it will be to the family for their son to accept person Y's daughter into their house

People are often treated as commodities in arranged marriage societies, and because they are grown up with this frame of mind, it is accepted by the parents and offspring alike. Doesn't mean that Person X's son wont try to cover Person Y's daughter in gasoline while she's sleeping and set her on fire though.

[Eurasian]

Terra, I'm so sorry. I know that doesn't help but I really do think you deserve the best in life and i'm sorry this happened to you.

[Foomanchew24]

Not to dig into your wounds or anything Terra, but did she say why or did she just break up with out any reason. I really hate when they don't give a reason. I mean how are you supposed to know if it was because of something you did or the way you are or if it wasn't you but her. I don't know but it drives me crazy whe they don't say why, I beat myself up trying to figure out what I had done wrong, as usually I was the dumpee and not the dumper. Knowing the answerer to such questions won't make you feel better but at least I would think it would be easier to move on. Unfortuneatly I never ask why cause I am too baffled and confused and after I have been dumped I make it a point not to run into them again. Out of sight out of mind, makes it easier for me to deny that it ever took place. Hope that that you will be able to move on. I know it can be difficult but it wasn't ment to be, and you will find somebody else, after all you are one sexy bitch.

I also feel like this is my home on the internet, after you get used to some of the more gruff characters around here you come to love this place. I visit on a daly basis, although I don't post that much. I like to read and see what is going with peoples lives.

[Eurasian]

Originally posted by: Foomanchew24
Not to dig into your wounds or anything Terra, but did she say why or did she just break up with out any reason. I really hate when they don't give a reason.

He said that she said there was no more passion. [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif[/img]

[Honoko]

Originally posted by: Eurasian

Originally posted by: Foomanchew24
Not to dig into your wounds or anything Terra, but did she say why or did she just break up with out any reason. I really hate when they don't give a reason.

He said that she said there was no more passion. [img][/img]

and i think that's one of the lamest reasons ever. i don't know what this girl is like but just based on what you said that she did, terra, she seemed really superficial =T

@Lobster & Assertn-- i'd say that marriage, heck sex even, is no longer sacred to anyone anymore. that's the main factor in high divorce rates in america. plus, almost everything in america (and most "modern" countries) is done for self-satisfaction anyway. the whole idea of sacrificing for one another is becoming more and more alien everyday. and because no one really believes in giving more than recieving, relationships are getting a lot more difficult to understand or even follow through. divorce happens when one or both sides think they're not getting what THEY want out of the relationship, as opposed to trying to mutually fulfill each others' needs.

[Foomanchew24]

Well if her only basis for the relationship was passion then she is going to have a hard time finding someone for the long term, because passion is like lust and it fades over time. You have to find someone that you would like as a friend and who likes you the way you are ,assion fades but friendship and companionship can last if you pick the right person.