Deadfire
Sat, 05-12-2007, 07:38 PM
Well it's tomorrow but may start this thread now to see what everyone is doing. and to repost what I said last year about this sort of thing. Not to kill what anyone has to say but just to reflect
So I'm sitting here trying to think of a gift for my mother and then I thought of this that Mother's Day, like any gift-giving or well-wishing holiday may be good for some, but it's quite painful for others. Does anyone think about those with no mothers or those who have wrongly had their kids taken away or for the mother who gave up a child for adoption? It's aimed like every mother in existence is worthy of honor on this day, the mom's are going to be queen for the day.
It tugs at my heart, knowing that every time they see something going on about Mother's Day, they become sorrowful and have to relive memories stored since the last painful Mother's Day. I saw a new line of greeting cards being advertised because they were different in that they said things like "Congratulations on Your Divorce", "To Mom and her Boyfriend" and "Happy Remarriage" . I'm surprised there aren't really cruel ones for people still carrying a hate or grudge towards their mothers, like "Thanks for giving me up" "You were always a bitch", "Thanks for the Beatings", "You were always neglectful", "You Never Loved Me", "Why did you have me?". Yikes, that's harsh! There would be a market for them, however.
I hear so many people bitch about their mothers and don't treat them well for a whole year, but then this day comes around and only on this day do they pretend to care. It's not fair to the mother. Do they really think a yearly phone call is going to make things ok? That mom isn't hip to this? She makes noises like she's so pleased to hear from them, but deep down she's sad, knowing they're just going through the motions because it's expected. Granted, there are mothers who have kids who love them all the time and are very happy to be showered with gifts and cards on this day. They are the lucky ones.
My mother is a kind woman, having myself with no father for much of my life; I remember that every Mother's Day. It pains me not to know how that felt, that because I was young I had no idea the problems she had. She had to go back to school just to support me and at that end caused her to go down a different path in her life then she wanted. More to the point I fucked up her life. To be reminded of this on mother's day is hard to think about, she never had said I did, and she praises the fact I was born. I just don't understand that, Is a gift every year going to help you not think of those times that you were poor, alone, and living a life you didn't plan on? Am I to be happy or sad?
Confusion on this matter hits me every year now at this time when I need to get her a gift, as if it wasn't hard already, nothing I give her will change the past, something that I want it to do, and as well I can't give her something to remind her of those days past. Some years I went in on gifts with my two siblings born after this to a loving mother and father. They don't know what happened before and gifts they give are much more how to say "normal" However this hurts me more, as it's truly not from me, the one that matters. To ask you Gotwoot to help me here is hard. Frankly I'm not asking for it. I'm just typing what’s on my mind and bitching about the time I need to spend in a mall somewhere thinking about this. Another year, another gift that means at least to me, jack
So I'm sitting here trying to think of a gift for my mother and then I thought of this that Mother's Day, like any gift-giving or well-wishing holiday may be good for some, but it's quite painful for others. Does anyone think about those with no mothers or those who have wrongly had their kids taken away or for the mother who gave up a child for adoption? It's aimed like every mother in existence is worthy of honor on this day, the mom's are going to be queen for the day.
It tugs at my heart, knowing that every time they see something going on about Mother's Day, they become sorrowful and have to relive memories stored since the last painful Mother's Day. I saw a new line of greeting cards being advertised because they were different in that they said things like "Congratulations on Your Divorce", "To Mom and her Boyfriend" and "Happy Remarriage" . I'm surprised there aren't really cruel ones for people still carrying a hate or grudge towards their mothers, like "Thanks for giving me up" "You were always a bitch", "Thanks for the Beatings", "You were always neglectful", "You Never Loved Me", "Why did you have me?". Yikes, that's harsh! There would be a market for them, however.
I hear so many people bitch about their mothers and don't treat them well for a whole year, but then this day comes around and only on this day do they pretend to care. It's not fair to the mother. Do they really think a yearly phone call is going to make things ok? That mom isn't hip to this? She makes noises like she's so pleased to hear from them, but deep down she's sad, knowing they're just going through the motions because it's expected. Granted, there are mothers who have kids who love them all the time and are very happy to be showered with gifts and cards on this day. They are the lucky ones.
My mother is a kind woman, having myself with no father for much of my life; I remember that every Mother's Day. It pains me not to know how that felt, that because I was young I had no idea the problems she had. She had to go back to school just to support me and at that end caused her to go down a different path in her life then she wanted. More to the point I fucked up her life. To be reminded of this on mother's day is hard to think about, she never had said I did, and she praises the fact I was born. I just don't understand that, Is a gift every year going to help you not think of those times that you were poor, alone, and living a life you didn't plan on? Am I to be happy or sad?
Confusion on this matter hits me every year now at this time when I need to get her a gift, as if it wasn't hard already, nothing I give her will change the past, something that I want it to do, and as well I can't give her something to remind her of those days past. Some years I went in on gifts with my two siblings born after this to a loving mother and father. They don't know what happened before and gifts they give are much more how to say "normal" However this hurts me more, as it's truly not from me, the one that matters. To ask you Gotwoot to help me here is hard. Frankly I'm not asking for it. I'm just typing what’s on my mind and bitching about the time I need to spend in a mall somewhere thinking about this. Another year, another gift that means at least to me, jack